It is very difficult for a woman to get orgasms easily if she does not pleasure herself occasionally. Only through self pleasure can a woman get to know about her erogenous zones. It is a very satisfying and erotic feeling and one that will benefit your partner also! Follow these steps when you are pleasuring yourself for the maximum pleasure:
o Start off by touching yourself. Touch your breasts, your tummy and areas inside your knee and thighs women vibrator. You could also try out pleasing yourself to some soothing music. Create an ambiance and then explore all the erogenous zones in your body. This is the best way in which you can find the right spots that trigger your pleasure centers.
o Don’t feel shy about using toys and techniques when you are pleasuring yourself. For instance, vibrators are a big help and can take the labor away from your efforts. It can give you just the level of vibrations you want at a rate you are comfortable with. You can also focus on just the position that is giving you all the pleasure.
o Water can also be a great way for you to get all the pleasure you want. Just try lying back in a shower and directing the stream of water towards your clitoris. You can try varying the pressure according to what is pleasing you the most. After that, change the pulsation and then try increasing the warmth of the water. You can also use the Jacuzzi for a really stimulating experience!
Getting sex in perspective, very few women talk confidently either about the joys or the difficulties associated with orgasm. The vast majority are silent so it is difficult to know what they think. It would be nice to imagine that at least some are quietly getting on with it; too busy doing to be talking about it.
Sadly, given that most women are shocked by any mention of explicit sexual activity, I question how many explore sex beyond the basics. It seems more likely that women say nothing because their sexual experiences are not as sensational as we’d like to hope.
In the film ‘Shirley Valentine’, Pauline Collins plays Shirley, a middle-aged housewife. Shirley comments: “I’m not particularly fond of it – sex. I think sex is like supermarkets, you know, overrated. Just a lot of pushing and shoving and you still come out with very little in the end.” (Note: this film was set in the days before supermarkets sold everything from microwaves to mobile phones!)
“Many women wonder if their lack of orgasms is due to some underlying emotional or psychological problem. However, this is usually not the case at all. Frequently, not having an orgasm is simply due to unfavourable circumstances, or lack of understanding about how to achieve personal sexual pleasure.” (p13 Dictionary of Sexual Terms 1992)
Shirley reminisces about a conversation where one of her friends comments on their youth: “In those days everyone thought it was a case of – in out, in out, shake it all about. Stars would light up the skies and the earth would tremble.” Shirley laughs at the ignorance of her generation of men who were unaware of the importance of the clitoris and the fact that clitoral stimulation is required for a woman to orgasm.